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How to Comfort Those Who Are Grieving
Matthew 5:4 states: “God blesses those people who grieve. They will find comfort!” One of the ways God provides comfort to those in pain is by putting people in their lives. When God puts you in someone’s life that is grieving - be an instrument of comfort and healing by taking the initiative to do something without being asked.
You can do this by giving them a heartfelt card; by delivering a prepared meal; by offering to housesit, feed and walk their pets, watch their kids, run errands, or even by offering transportation. Show them you truly do care and want to share their grief.
In his book, ‘The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People’, Steven R Covey tells a story of how things are viewed differently when you know the facts. [I’ll try to summarized in my own words and from memory the story] “I was sitting in a subway…it was a quiet, peaceful day as people were heading to their destination…some reading newspapers, some quietly riding along. Then suddenly a man with several kids got on…and he sat down beside me…his head hanging down as if all the energy had left his body. I then noticed his kids suddenly began running rampant…disturbing the passengers…even hitting the newspapers the passengers were reading. This went on and the man did absolutely nothing to stop it. He was totally apathetic, completely absent of interest or concern. Not believing his willingness to do something about it, I asked the man if he could control his kids…that they were disturbing the passengers. (Notice how the passengers and I were reacting to the situation – our quiet environment was being disturbed.) Finally the man looked up and quietly muttered something, “Yea…I guess I should. I don’t know…we just left the hospital…and uh…their mother just died…and uh…I guess they don’t know how to handle it!” (After hearing his situation) My whole attitude and mood changed! It went from being agitated and being disturbed to one of sympathy. Immediately I ask the man, “I’m sorry! What can I do to help?” (See how the mood changed when the circumstances changed!”) [Please read the book. It’s one of the very best self-help books ever written.]
Though I can’t count the times (and just recently) I’ve spoken well-intentional words like, “Let me know if there’s anything I can do for you.” or “I know how you feel.” …these words may appear helpful, they don’t truly offer comfort for the grieving.
Every person is unique in their needs and how they handle personal grief. The person grieving may not feel comfortable asking for help and/or even know what he or she needs in these troubling times. Other comments that aren’t useful either – such as “You’ll get through this.” or “Time will heal your broken heart.” or “I know how you feel!” aren’t much help as well. Though your losses from the past may seem similar, they aren’t the same. Until they’re willing to ‘open up’, to talk about it, you cannot understand how they are feeling.
Sometimes words aren’t necessary at all and your ‘silent’ but caring presence can be the comfort they need. You’re simply a friend in need, holding their hands in yours to give them additional strength and to show they’re not alone – that someone is there who is also sharing their grief. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 “Praise God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! He is the Father who is compassionate and the God who gives comfort. He comforts us whenever we suffer. That is why whenever other people suffer, we are able to comfort them by using the same comfort we have received from God.” (God’s Word Translation Bible)
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Bible Solutions to Life’s Problems
by John Bolick
“Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not want what belongs to others. It does not brag. It is not proud. It is not rude. It does not look out for its own interests. It does not easily become angry. It does not keep track of other people’s wrongs. Love is not happy with evil. But it is full of joy when the truth is spoken. It always protects. It always trusts. It always hopes. It never gives up.” (From 1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
What is Love?
"Love is Patient"
"Love is Kind"
'Because I Love You!'
"I picked up a man from the street, and he was eaten up alive from worms. Nobody could stand him, and he was smelling so badly. I went to him to clean him, and he asked, 'Why do you do this?' I said, 'Because I love you.' " - Mother Teresa
Walking In Faith and Demonic Forces
by John Bolick (site owner)
“Walking in faith” can be a metaphor or a comparison to a ‘Mule working a plow field’. Every day may seem like the same old grind. Because we’re human and the body rules the head, quite often I admit, a stubborn streak sometimes sets in and we have our weak moments. What’s the use in attempting to believe in and always trying to stay on course and walk in the faith when we can’t see it or feel it? We're simply relying on faith to carry us through. On some days we feel we can almost equate it to the classic example of the "carrot and stick" dangled before a stubborn horse, mule, or donkey to get it to pull a cart or move forward. However, when the horse reaches its final destination; or "walked in faith", and in this case has carried the workload to the end…the reward is of course - the carrot.
Here’s the payoff we need to strive for, or motivation we need, to keep in mind at all times. First the obvious - we know life here on earth is not easy. It’s a testing ground for the soul…a learning center where we’re giving free choices to make - be they right or wrong. What makes keeping on the 'straight and narrow' in our ‘walk of faith’ a tough field to plow – the internal and external influences placed on us by many factors…the stress of survival; the constant day-to-day bombardment of the negative news media as a whole; maybe our work environment or coworkers; or maybe our well-meaning friends and even our family members; or the struggle of bringing our dreams and desires to fruitation; all this along with our physical and mental emotions and limitations.
Here’s the good news. God wants us to truly succeed in all endeavors, and to reward us with the prize (the golden crowns) when we reach our final destination. We want to pass the 'test of life' with high grades and flying colors. We want to hear the words, "Well done my good and faithful servant!"
‘Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds in the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, over all the creatures that move along the ground.” So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:26-27.
The Garden of Eden
A Place of Perfection
Everything was going absolutely great, perfection abound; perfect health, no cancers, no diseases of any kind, no pollution, plenty of wholesome food without chemical and additives, no perception of evil; just a perfect and magnificent environment in which to live, that is until or as the story goes, Adam and Eve messed things up; were deceived and went against God's commandment and ate the ‘forbidden fruit from the Tree of Life’. Thus, the human race went completely straight downhill from that point on. Notice the words evil (demonic) and forbidden above. Satan didn't physically 'force' them to eat the forbidden fruit - he 'persuaded' through 'deception' as he tried to do when tempting Christ, our Lord and Savior. "Bow down to me and I'll 'give you'...was the common thread.
Seeing how we failed and continued to spiral down and down in deep despair, God loved his creation so much that he devises a plan and sets it into motion to help the human race. God comes down from heaven in the form of a human being to save sinful mankind.
In today’s modern times, it was Jesus Christ, the Son of God, who died on a Cross as a sacrifice just so we could be made pure, presentable, and perfected as was Christ. The 'Lamb of God' - his death, his willing sacrifice to be slaughtered like a lamb to atone for our sins - what a sacrifice for all who believe! Those final words still echo in the hearts of believers to this day, "It is finished!" His work was done. This was His reason for coming down from heaven; to save and to offer redemption for mankind, and be presentable to a pure and holy and just God – and to be 'worthy' to live for an eternity in HIS heavenly home. Would you allow a known unrepentant thief, murderer, child molester in your home? As THE holy Creator, why should he?
Though each day it seems like a ‘carrot’ is always being dangled in front of us to challenge us…we can overcome every obstacle if we only remember every waking moment that it was Jesus Christ, God in the flesh, who traveled the road before us to remove the large stones and boulders for a much more smoother, straight path to our final destination. He makes the heavy load much lighter to carry and the burdens easier to manage in the tough road ahead.
When you have Jesus in your heart, he protects you when nothing else will. "Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both the soul and body in hell." - Matthew 10:28 He will also love you unconditionally when no one else will! Though it happens to everyone, not long ago for two nights in a row, (and many times in my life) I had horrible demonic nightmares and woke up in a cold sweat; tee-shirt soaked with cold wet. The dream was so real and so horrible that I instantly called out to Jesus, my Lord and Savior to protect me, and then commanded the evil presence of the demons to leave my environment in the name and authority given to me as a 'believer in Jesus Christ'. As a Christian believer, the peace was instantaneous and I fell back into a peaceful, restful sleep. The demonic entities were required to leave my present environment - bedroom and my home the instant I called on Jesus, the Prince of Peace. However, he demands that you must believe it in your heart, not just your head. I find it interesting and have read stories where we find ourselves in a sudden intense desperate situation with absolutely no hope that the first name that we unconsciously call out to is - Jesus Christ. I even a found a report while doing my research for this article, that a terrified high-ranking worshiper of Satan final words were, “This is all wrong! This isn't the way it should be! Oh my God! Jesus! Save me! Save me!” but obviously it was too late...or was it? I just can't imagine the unbelievable horrors and guess - we'll never know! Maybe the fact that he called out to Jesus, and God the Father not wanting 'anyone' to perish, showed mercy and saved him - even in his last final moments.
Remember the movie, ‘The Exorcist!’? Scariest movie I've ever encountered in my lifetime, and still remember some of the scenes to this day. I’ve heard and read several eyewitness accounts and testimonies from several priest, and two very credible ministers I know personally, that demon possession is true. Going in somewhat a skeptic on exorcisms and not taking it seriously, he told me about his first ordeal. He said that while in college working towards his theology degree, and working alongside an ordained priest, he witnessed one performed. It scared him so much that he had to leave the room during the attempted exorcism! Going in as a somewhat skeptic, he came out as a true believer and never could imagine demonic possession being a real situational possibility. I know this man and he's not only blunt with any truth he shells out, he's also not the type that scares easily, if at all - so I believe him.
Some may wonder, even laugh and state that demonic evil doesn’t exist. My response to that is - if mankind can dream up such horrible visions of evil for movies, and humans are capable of unspeakable cruel acts (Hitler, Jhad beheadings, murder without remorse, unforgivable acts against innocent children, or the enjoyment and/or glorification of horror movies such as the vampire trilogies, or movies like 'Friday the 13th', or 'Night of the Living Dead', or other realistic demonic movies and the occult, etc., then the old adage, "What the mind can conceive - the mind can achieve" is a fairly accurate depiction of man's possibilities. After all, the subconcious is like a recorder - it remembers every detail of your life; every thing you've ever thought about or experienced with the help of the standard five human senses. How much more so when it's been suggested that there are between 14 to 20 different senses at work. science.howstuffworks.com/life/question242.htm Knowing this, I absolutely refuse to watch such movies simply because a visual can have such a deep impact that one can never forget or wipe it from memory. (Here's some sound advice to live by from Philippians 4:8 which states, "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things."
In Mark 5:1-13 the Bible states, “They (Jesus and the disciples) went across the lake to the region of the Gerasenes (to the west of Capernaum and Jerusalem across the Jordan). When Jesus got out of the boat, a man with an evil spirit came from the tombs to meet him. This man lived in the tombs, and no one could bind him any more, not even with a chain. For he had often been chained hand and foot, but he tore the chains apart and broke the chains apart and broke the irons on his feet. No one was strong enough to subdue him. Night and day among the tombs and in the hills he would cry out and cut himself with stones.” (He cut himself and had super-human strength – sounds chillingly familiar to the movie - the Exorcist!)
When he saw Jesus from a distance, he ran and fell on his knees in front of him. He shouted at the top of his voice, “What do you want with me, Jesus, Son of the Most High God? Swear to God that you won’t 'torture' me?” For Jesus had said to him, “Come out of this man, you evil spirit?”
Then Jesus asked him, “What is your name?”
“My name is Legion”, he replied, “for we are many.” And he begged Jesus again and again not to send them out of the area.
A large herd of pigs was feeding on the nearby hillside. The demons 'begged' Jesus, “Send us among the pigs; allow us to go into them.” He gave them 'permission', and the evil spirits came out and went into the pigs. The herd, about two thousand in number, rushed down the steep bank into the lake and were drowned.
(vs 15) When they (the people in the countryside heard about this) came to Jesus, they saw the man who had been possessed by the legion of demons, sitting there, dressed and in his right mind… (Note: a ‘legion’ was considered to consist of 2000 – 2000 demons all in one man, incredible.)
(vs 18) As Jesus was getting into the boat, the man who had been demon-possessed begged to go with him. Jesus did not let him, but said, “Go home to your family and tell them how much the Lord has done for you, and how he has had mercy on you.” So the man went away and began to tell in the Decapolis how much Jesus had done for him. And all the people were amazed.
Several things in this story interest me: (1) How without an introduction the demons instantly recognized Jesus for who he was, the almighty powerful Son of God. (2) The fact that a legion (considered to be 2000) demons were within one single man giving him incredible strength to break the chains from his body and force him to do unnatural acts. (3) How the demons forced him to involuntarily cry out and cut self with stones. (4) How they not only recognized him but feared Jesus and even asked permission and begged again and again not to send them out of the area or torture them. (5) What massive power would any demon fear and bow down to? Jesus Christ, the Son of God.
When you acknowledge Jesus Christ in your heart, and know without a shadow of doubt that He can control and change things in your life for the better with divine power…nothing, not even demonic evil can hold you captive.
If you’ve never received Jesus Christ into your heart and want his presence in your life to protect, change, and bring peace within – please – with your lips, want you say this simple prayer and let him transform your heart and mind?
“A Simple Prayer of Faith and Belief Is All It Takes!
"Heavenly Father, I have been a sinner all of my life.
I want to believe in the promise of your Son, Jesus Christ who said, “Confess your sins and believe in Me and you shall be saved”.
I now ask for your forgiveness for every sin I've committed, and ask you, Jesus Christ to come in to my life and be my Lord and Savior.
I want the Holy Spirit to live within me and fill my heart with the love of Christ.
I ask you Lord to change me so that I might be pleasing and acceptable in Thy sight…a Holy God!
You are my Creator and my God.
Thank you Lord. Amen!"
Here's more good news! Although nothing may seem to have changed immediately, you've planted the seed in your heart and Christ is there. He will cultivate and care for that seed continuously, and like any beautiful plant or flower, the leaves will slowly and gently begin to unfold and blossom into the beautiful, peaceful, loving inner-being God wants us to be.
Finally, the Bible states two beloved and well-known verses that say it all:
In John 3:16 the Bible says, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
In John 14:6 the Bible (God's Word) says that “Jesus answered, I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really knew me, you would know my Father as well. From now on, you do know him and have seen him.”
His love for us is 'Outragious!'
His love for us is 'Unconditional!'
Matthew 7:7-8 states:
It's simple really!
Until you 'Ask'
the answers won't be given;
Until you 'Seek' answers
you won't find any;
Until you 'Knock'
the door to the answers won't be opened to you!
While doing research for this page, I read an article that stated demons hate dry and arid places and found a link about it. So now I also include, “Leave me you evil spirits. I command you to go to ‘dry and arid places’ in the name of Jesus and by the authority given me by Jesus Christ, the Son of God and as a believer of the Christian faith. I COMMAND YOU TO LEAVE - NOW!” Interestingly, I always get a “chill within” every time. Maybe it’s the spookiness in knowing some powerful evil lurks that is far more powerful than I, that can overtake me, I don’t know…but I do know they’ve 'given up' knowing Christ is within my heart.
And, to be quite frank, they started it, and I rather enjoy sending them to the places they hate – 'dry and arid places'. Call it an 'eye for eye - tooth for a tooth!' or 'tit for tat'...I don't care what you call it - mess with me demons and you’ve got to deal with Jesus as well, and you're not gonna' like it! You're destined to always lose. BAM! SMACKDOWN! LOSERS! ☺
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